I have to admit that I married a man that’s totally different than me. In the beginning of our marriage, it was annoying. I couldn’t understand him, but now I admire and learn from him.
After the wedding ceremony, I started to know the real man that I married. The emotion and the butterflies in my belly left because reality showed up. What at first was funny, was not funny anymore! “I ARRIVED” to this institution called MARRIAGE.
Thank God for marriage seminars. I learned that God created man different than women. Their brain is wired differently. They don’t see the way we see things (or don’t see them at all). They don’t hear the way we hear. My husband wasn’t trying to be mean to me or offend me, he was just different than me.
We go to a restaurant and order different food. If we enjoy our food, pay, and go home - my husband is happy. He had an awesome time. For him nothing went wrong. But for me, everything went wrong! He didn’t share his food. He didn’t even ask if I wanted to try his??
Unless I ask, he won’t think of it. My husband has no problem with me eating both of our meals if I want to, but I have to ask. Many times I have to have the initiative for many things (not all things and not at all times). Through the years, we both learned and now we know - I HAVE TO ASK!
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
We have to be POSITIVE in everything. We can’t live life in our marriage always thinking negativity, assuming wrong or thinking the worst about our husbands. My husband is still the same, I am the one who changed my heart and learned to truly know my husband’s heart. I found out that his intentions are always good. I learned to love him for who he is.
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
We need to change the way we think about our husbands. I used to get offended for everything and thought that my husband walked around thinking of how he could hurt me or offend me. We need to put on the armor of God - the mind of Christ toward our husbands.
2 Corinthians 2:11
Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices.
Seek God daily. Know your husband and learn from him. Honestly, Get in love with the word of God. The wisdom that God gives us through the mystery and the secrets of His truth will set us free.
The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.
We need to built a strong foundation in our homes. We don’t have to agree on everything with our husbands, but we have to always bring peace and unity to our homes.
“Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation, and every city or house divided against itself will not stand.
I put my loved ones first in every decision in life. I think of my four children and make the decision that I would want them to make in their future. I believe that I am planting seeds for my children and their children’s, children’s future. As a curse goes from generation to generation, I believe that a blessing can too!
The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.
We need to think before we act or speak. Are we going to build up or tear down our house?
1 John 4:8
Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.
Maybe you have bigger issues that need forgiveness in your heart. Maybe you found it hard to forgive your husband or someone from your past that hurt you? Maybe their actions created a wound that can’t find its way out of your heart. I want to share the story that started my emotional healing journey. My torn soul required God to go “DEEP AND RENEW” my mind and emotions to overcome my past and release the unforgiveness in my heart.
During a dream that I had, I heard the door of my room open. It was Jesus. I looked and began to tell him, “Come here! You are the one I need to speak to.” Jesus continued walking slowly and gently toward me. My pain and hurt did not make him run to me. I raised my voice and cried, “Come here Jesus! You are the one I need to speak to.” Yet, he continued to walk slowly and gently. I continued yelling, “Come here Jesus! And tell me why! Why do I live this life? Why …..? Why…..? Why Jesus why?? He finally got to my bed, so I moved to let him sit by my side. There were no words. It was complete silence but my heart was overwhelmed with his love and presence. He took my head and pulled it towards his chest, then with his hand he stroked my hair. The next morning, the sunlight through the window was coming inside that room like never before. Strangely, the mattress had a sunken imprint, as if someone sat there the whole night. Jesus embraced this wounded young women and cleansed my heart. If you are desperate enough for righteousness and ask Him to change your heart, he will.
“Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’
Today, I want to end this ten day Submission Challenge by saying that our GOD is REAL!!
Be the wife that God wants you to be from this day forward. No excuses. No regrets.
The Wife of Noble Character
A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate. Proverbs 31:10-31