Instructions for Christian Households
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.
Notice that the word doesn’t say, “Submit to your husband….only if he is good to you….. Or if he helps you around the house...etc., etc."
If your husband for any reason does not follow the instructions that God gave him as a husband, that’s between him and God. It may affect us tremendously, but we can’t disobey God because of our husband’s behavior or our past. We are responsible for doing our job right regardless of our husband’s obedience or disobedience to God. We can’t use this as an excuse on why we can’t submit to our husband, honor and respect him.
The problem is not that we don’t know how to submit, because we have no problem submitting to our bosses in our jobs. Most of the time they are unbelievers, but we don’t want to lose our jobs, right? But with our husbands we resist submission.
*Please let me clarify, if your husband, or anyone in authority tells you to do something contrary to the word of God - then you most resist it. That’s why we need to know the word of God, to be able to know His will. Recognize good from evil- right from wrong.
**If your husband is physically abusing you - run to look for help. I’m not encouraging you to let him abuse you.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
This is what our husbands were created for: to be the head, to be respected, to be honored, and to be our protectors.
We must recognize and take notice of his good works and actions. Then we should appreciate and praise him for what he does.
One day in my frustration, I cried and asked God, "Is it possible for a christian woman to be happy and enjoy her husband?" And He answered me, "Remember when Jesus came into Jerusalem and the people were shouting, 'hosanna-hosanna'. The pharisees told Him to tell those people to be quiet, and Jesus answered, 'If they be quiet the rocks will cry out'. The same in your marriage - if you don't take care of your husband, the rocks will."
We must take care, honor and respect our husband. I believe that if a man does not find this in his own house, from his own wife (his rib-helper), he will feel depressed, miserable and without honor.
24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
One of the biggest excuses that I used to tell myself was, “I don’t trust his abilities.” Then one day, I realized the TRUTH THAT SET ME FREE, and that is, “If God created this man the way he is and trusted his abilities to be the head of my home, than who am I to not trust or believe that my husband (the man that God gave me as the answer of my prayer for a husband) is equipped with power, understanding and wisdom to do what God called him to do- LEAD HIS FAMILY!
I have to say that God revealed all these things to me through the studying of His word and spending daily time with Him in prayer.
PRAYER should be our lifestyle. Daily building our relationship with God is vital for our heart and mind. If we say, "well I don’t have time to pray, I’m too busy," then I’ll ask you these questions:
-Do you watch TV? - Do you talk on the phone? -Are you on social media? If your answers are “Yes,” then your excuses won’t work. What’s more important to you? If we want the blessings of God, we must honor him by making our priorities right.
We know God by spending time with him, the same with our husband. I learned to value his presence and to enjoy and value his friendship and faithfulness. I learned to trust him and his decisions.
Praying together as husband and wife is also very important. Please do not force your husband to do this. Talk to him first and pray, ask God to put the desire in your husband’s heart and He will. Give it some time. Be patient.
31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”
We can not allow anyone, including our parents, to control our marriage and family decisions. Our parents shouldn't be involved in any of our marriage situations. No excuses. No one should take the place of our husbands - period.
We can’t lie to our husbands to please our parents. God doesn’t honor what we do in disagreement with our head/husband. Be HONEST.
33 ........and the wife must respect her husband.
Its extremely important for us to respect our husbands. It’s God’s command.
We need to be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building your husband up according to his needs, that it may benefit him. Ephesians 4:29
Do not accuse your husband for no reason— when he has done you no harm. Proverbs 3:30
We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:5
Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife. Proverbs 21:9
Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.
From the fruit of their lips people are filled with good things, and the work of their hands brings them reward. Proverbs 12:14
The best thing in our relationship is HONESTY, no EXCUSES or BLAMING each other. Speak the truth. Lying is not of God.
We need to take responsibilities of every word or action without excuses or blaming. Who ate the fruit from the tree that God said not to eat?
Adam blamed the woman. The woman blamed the snake. This needs to stop. We are REDEEMED FROM THE CURSE!
We need to stop giving excuses or blaming our husbands when we know that the truth is - we are tired or not in the mood!
How does our house look like? Or just our bathroom? Does it look as if it was just a female living in that place? Pink colors, flowers, makeup everywhere, as if it’s all about "ME."
This is my challenge to all married Christian women: I dare you to follow these instructions to see your marriage transformed for the glory of God.
Questions to answer for yourself:
Am I following God’s instructions by being submissive to my husband?
Am I praying and reading the bible often?
How often do I lie to my husband?
When is the last time I encouraged my husband?
When is the last time I prayed for my husband?
Should I trust my husband’s decisions by trusting God first?
Am I in the right place in my role as the helper in my marriage?
Does my submission of honor and respect for my husband depends on his submission to God?
Intimacy with God. Study and apply the bible scriptures that are written in today’s “Submission Challenge.”