"I trust YOU, I just can’t trust some women."
Did you ever find yourself saying this to your husband? I did. Because of the woman that I was in my past, I was afraid that a woman like the old me would cross my husband’s path. I self-projected my former pre-Christian ambitions, desires, and sensual ways onto other woman. This caused FEAR!
The reality is the world is full of women that live by the acts of the flesh; sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. Those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God. (Galatians 5)
My struggle to trust my husband had nothing to do with his abilities or his surroundings. It had a lot to do with my own heart and the roots that were still there.
This is sad, but it is my reality. At one point, I realized that I trusted more the men in my past that hurt me the most, than my husband, a man who loves me, cares for me and took me as his wife. The roots that were in my heart overtook my mind and blinded my eyes. The seed of the enemy was creating its fruit at the perfect time that he planted it for. The enemy doesn’t care if it takes years to use his seeds to destroy you, as long he got us feed the seed nutrients to make it grow.
Consider how patiently and crafty he works. First, he made me believe all of his lies, Second, then I lived them and as he used them to guide me into the path of destruction. Finally, when I started to change my sinful desires for God’s heart, the devil used his seed to create bad fruit in my life years later. I couldn’t trust a real man sent by God because of my insecurity and my jealousy. This created turmoil in my marriage.
As water reflects the face, so one’s life reflects the heart.
It's difficult for us to TRUST even God because we have doubts and unbelief. We know that He is powerful, but we sometimes lack confidence that He will supernaturally intervene in our situation. It's always a matter of the heart.
Furthermore, we will always have temptations. We will always have decisions to make in our marriage and in our individual lives. Adam and Eve saw that the fruit looked good, juicy and delicious, and therefore, they ate it. TEMPTATION!
We’re not perfect, but we are called to represent Christ in everything, to glorify His name, and to represent His character. Everything starts in our own homes, and in our own hearts. Jesus, himself was tempted by the devil. He spoke with power and authority to Satan, “It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone but by every word that comes out of the mouth of God. Do not put the Lord your God to the test. Away from me, Satan! For it is written: Worship the Lord your God, and serve him only.”
The Bible also tells us about Joseph’s temptation. He ran far away from it, even though it cost him some pain and sacrifice. In the end, God honored him and fulfilled His plan in Joseph’s life.
Remember that just as our husbands have many temptations in this world, we as women, also have temptations. We need to trust and PRAY for one another.
The sinful nature is in the heart of man but we have to remember that Jesus came to change this, so we can be born again - to be made new and transformed. He says at all times, "Fear not."
We must trust God and live our life in His peace. This is one of the many reasons why we as Christians shouldn’t marry an unbeliever. We need the Spirit of the Lord on the inside to help us with our doubts, unbelief and our temptations. It’s hard enough to live happily married to a believer because of our sinful nature, I can’t imagine living with an unbeliever. If you’re married to an unbeliever this word is for you and for all married women to follow.
1 Peter 3:1-6
Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.
I learned to let go and let God. To trust not just in my husband but to trust God. How? Once again by READING THE BIBLE, he set me FREE!
For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.
We need to submit to God and learn to live the FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.
In our past, we had no problem trusting the enemy’s plan for our lives. We went from brokenness to greater brokenness. However, now as Christians, we are in the perfect will of God and are going from glory to glory. We are in His hands!
As the clay is in the potter’s hand, so is our life in the hands of God.
We must follow God’s instruction regardless of our feelings and fears for Him to transform and change everything that needs to be changed in our hearts and in our husband’s heart. We must TRUST God’s plan by trusting and being submissive to our husbands.
2 Corinthians 5:17
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!
Questions to answer to yourselves:
Am I struggling to trust God and trusting my husband?
What the bible says about fear?
Am I following God’s instructions for my marriage?
If my husband is not submissive to God or unbeliever, should I submit to him?
If my husband is asking me to do something contrary to the word of God, should I obey him because the Bible says to submit to him?
TODAY’S SUBMISSION CHALLENGE
INTIMACY with God. Pray. Read the Bible. Take a personal inventory of your insecurities and fears. Discover why you have them and put your cares upon the Lord.