I learned to have (through the word of God) SUBMISSION AND RESPECT towards my husband. God gave us instructions to follow in our marriage. God’s principles and purposes are the ONLY way that marriage works.
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
I started to seek first His kingdom. The more intimacy I had with the Lord, the more I learned to know Him and to love Him because of who He is and not because of what He can do for me or give me. The same thing happened with my husband.
Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
Before I submit to anyone, I have to submit to God. It's Him, through His word, who showed me the things that needed to change in my heart. He renewed my mind and my way of thinking. I humbled myself before Him. I surrendered and turned away from my sin. I became His slave, as I was a slave to sin before I knew Him. I discovered that the more I had His presence, the more I wanted Him and the more my heart changed. Darkness disappeared. Heaviness lifted. Peace that trespasses all understanding was flowing in my mind like a river. My choices began to change. I chose JOY. I chose PEACE. I chose "LIFE!"
2 Timothy 1:7
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
We can't live in fear. Because of my past, I was bound by the spirit of fear. Fear of death and fear of losing- something. In this case, it was losing my husband. I learned to live with a sound mind because of the love of a powerful God for me. I learned to trust Him with all of my heart and mind.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
Machines always come with a manual of instructions to follow. The same with marriage, God created it and the manual is the Bible. As a Christian woman (follower of Christ), I must submit to God and follow “ALL” His instructions for me to see HIS GLORY in my life!
Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.
My problem wasn't that Shawn needed to change. That was between him and God. My problem was to OBEY God and follow His instructions that He gave ME through His word.
I did what most women who have issues in their marriage do. I talked about the wrong things that my husband did. I believed I knew what he needed to do to change and fix the problem, but I wasn’t examining my own heart. We need to do what God is asking for US to do. I really believe that we can change, but we must be willing to be changed by admitting our wrongs and our sin. Please do not misunderstand me, no one is perfect and both (husband and wife) have to change, and both have to follow the instructions from the Lord. As the woman has to submit to her husband, honor and respect him; he also has to love, protect and serve his wife as Christ loves the church. I focus more on our job and roles as wives in this “Submission Challenge” because this is created for women. We can’t change our husband’s heart but we can change ours.
He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.
I REPENTED and I asked God to cleanse me and to teach me to be not just "a wife" but the wife that my husband needed - A GOOD THING. A HELPER!
Questions to answer for yourself:
Does my marriage work when I do it my way?
Am I seeking God for my marriage?
Am I submissive to God?
Am I resisting the enemy, so he can flee from me?
Am I renewing my mind daily through the word of God?
Am I willing to follow God’s instruction for my marriage as the wife?
Do I have to wait until my husband changes, to change my own heart?
Am I the good thing that my husband found?
Have some INTIMACY with God. Spend time alone with just you and Him. Worship God and read His word. Write down a list of things that you can do to be a “HELPER” to your husband from now on.