I have been married since 2000, a mother of four children, and a follower of Christ. I have learned a lot about the role of a wife in a marriage. My husband and I, as many newlywed couples, had an enormous amount of stress in our early years. In the beginning, it was hard.
Why was it so difficult to live with the man that I loved? Probably because of my life experience. Before I was married, I was a single mother of two children. My life and the lives of my children were in my hands and under my control. I made the decisions (even the bad ones).
I was just another person trying to survive in this world without the knowledge of the word of God. I made many mistakes before I was married, but they were my mistakes. It was my life. However, after the wedding ceremony, it became our life. My husband and I were now one. I simply was not ready.
I had no idea of the importance and the values of marriage. But as I more fully surrendered my heart and mind to Christ and the authority of His word, I learned to see the beauty and purpose of marriage through the Creator of this covenant.
Did you know the only recorded words that man said before sin entered the world, was his personal pleasure with marriage? There was no “Hallelujah” or “Praise the Lord” from the mouth of man before sin. I am sure Adam spoke. He named the animals. He communicated with God. However, the only words he spoke that God wanted recorded for eternity in the inspired scriptures was about his wife and helper.
Then man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”
Importance of marriage:
Marriage is the ordained plan of God. It was created by Him and it reflects His image. In the Bible, marriage is compared with the covenant - the most intimate relationship and fellowship between Jesus (the groom) and the church (the bride).The blessing of marriage is the gift of children. (Psalm 127:3-5) God created marriage as the safe and sanctified institution to raise godly offspring to fill the earth. (Malachi 2:15) The purpose of marriage is to glorify God’s name - not to find happiness and pleasure. However, if marriage is done God’s way, it always leads to joy, peace, security, and relational wholeness.
The significance of marriage is found in one word - Covenant. But what are some values that marriage requires and fosters in our lives?
Values of marriage:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
*Reflect today on the importance and the values of marriage through the word of God.
Questions to answer for yourself:
-In what condition is my marriage in right now?
-Am I different now then before I got married?
-What things from MY past do I think are affecting my marriage?
-Am I giving my marriage the most important place in my life?
-Am I walking and living its values?
-Who created marriage?
-Am I bone of my husband’s bones and flesh of my husband’s flesh?
Make a list of all the things that you think YOU are doing wrong?